“I see old uploads the same way I see shitty tattoos—even if they’re dumb or were a mistake, they remind you of who you were at the time you did it.”
The purge. It’s not just the name of
a documentary about our current democracy series of films concocted by Hollywood, it's also what happens when someone scrubs their social media presence of an ex. Now that the relationship is officially over, it’s time to act like it never existed in the first place. Totally healthy, right?!
The purge can take many different forms. For example, 29-year-old Rachel had a “ceremony” with her friends to get rid of her ex’s presence on her Instagram feed. “It was a very painful breakup so I wanted to erase any memory of the relationship with friends.” Tech-savvy 25-year-old Kristina didn’t delete, but archived. “Archiving them takes it off my mind and out of sight, but doesn’t completely erase him from my memories,” she explains. On the very opposite end of the spectrum, 28-year-old Justine keeps the pictures on her feed out of respect. “ Deleting our photos or purging their existence online would be disrespectful to the time we spent together,” says Justine. Ahead, three different ladies make the case for how to handle the exes on their Instagram feed.
Strategy #1: Delete and don't look back.
“Instagram is a huge part of my life and now that this person isn’t a part of my life, I don’t want them on my feed,” explains Rachel. Honestly, that’s just sound logic.
However superficial it may sound, Instagram plays a huge role in the lives of average modern-day Americans, who spend an average of 53 minutes a day on the app. We are constantly engaging with the app, and curating the feed. We want to put our best public face forward and if Brian wasn’t good enough to be in your life, he definitely isn’t good enough to be on your Instagram.
Plus, if your feed is covered in current relationship pictures, it can send the wrong message to potential new Brians. “I know I wouldn’t like it if I was dating a guy and he had a bunch of pictures with his ex,” says Rachel. “I think it’s just a part of trying to move on.” For Rachel, deleting an ex from her social feeds provided closure after a painful breakup. Taking note from Lauren Conrad, Rachel employed the classic I want to forgive you and I want to forget you strategy.